Want to Forgive Finally?

How Hypnotherapy, CBT and Past-Life Regression Change Your Perspective on the Psychopath Who Broke Your Heart

If you’ve ever loved a psychopath, you know the question that shows up at 3 a.m. It isn’t “How could he?” You already know that answer. He could do it since he felt nothing.

The question that really haunts you is “How could I?” How could a smart, strong, perceptive person hand over her money, her judgment, her whole self to someone like that?

I have a surprising answer. Sometimes you fall for him because some part of you already knows him from the inside.

“I’m a Dandy. My Name’s Peter.”

A client I’ll call Nicole came to me after the worst year of her life. She’s 32, tall and delicate, with a face that belongs on a 1920s movie poster. She’s also becoming a doctor. She had survived enough drama for a miniseries and come out on top every time. Then she met Andrew.

Andrew was seventeen years older, handsome, charismatic, a flamboyant wheeler-dealer. They lived the super-rich high life. Then Andrew took his own life and left Nicole broken open, grieving a man who had betrayed her at every turn, and asking the question every survivor asks. How did that happen?

So we went looking. I asked her to look down at her feet.

“I have expensive black boots on,” she said. “I’m a dandy. My name’s Peter. I’m extremely handsome, but I’m a real user. I manipulate old ladies into giving up their fortunes. I feel no guilt. Wow. None.”

London, around 1880. Peter’s mother was a high-class courtesan who entertained lords and earls, and Peter hated her. Nicole recognized her instantly as the stepsister who abused her in this lifetime. Nannies raised Peter, boarding school polished him, and he always felt inferior to the rich boys around him. He grew up to deal in fake antiquities and stolen art, charming everyone and cheating them all.

Then Nicole’s face soured, like she was watching something physically revolting.

Peter had a mark, a trusting landed lord who handed over his family’s entire fortune. Peter ruined him. “He’s even easier than the dumb old ladies,” Nicole said. Then she gasped. “Oh, my god. It’s Andrew. I ruined Andrew.”

In that life, Andrew got the last word. He strangled Peter.

The Tables Turned

Floating above that lifetime, Nicole named the soul lesson herself: blaming and bitterness destroy your soul. Peter should have forgiven his mother. When she met her soul group in the In Between, they weren’t exactly throwing a welcome party. She’d had so much talent and squandered it.

Back in room awareness, Nicole was horrified. “I think I killed a bunch of people too! How is seeing that awful life supposed to help me?”

Here’s how. In this lifetime, Nicole stood on the receiving end of exactly the kind of heartless charm Peter used to dish out. It’s the Golden Rule flipped upside down. Once she felt that cold, guilt-free calculation from the inside, Andrew stopped being an incomprehensible monster. She understood him. And understanding opens the door to forgiveness.

Andrew came here to teach her. He had a tough assignment.

Psychopaths Don’t Wear Hockey Masks

When I say “psychopath,” most people picture Freddy Krueger. Don’t. Psychopaths wear good suits. The authors of Snakes in Suits found them thriving in finance, real estate, and entertainment. Martha Stout estimates that roughly one in twenty-five people walks around with no conscience at all.

My favorite book on the subject, and I’ve read them all, is The Psychopath Inside by neuroscientist James Fallon. Fallon was studying brain scans of psychopathic killers when he discovered his own scan matched theirs, with the same low activity in the regions tied to empathy and moral judgment. It’s a fascinating, unsettling read, and it makes one thing clear. A psychopath’s brain doesn’t work like yours. No guilt. No remorse. No brakes.

So stop blaming yourself for not seeing it. You played by a normal human rulebook with someone who never read it.

Why Open Hearts Make Easy Targets

When researcher Sandra L. Brown studied women who love psychopaths, she found a striking pattern: deep empathy, fierce loyalty, and a habit of believing the best in people. That described Nicole to a T. Those are beautiful qualities. They also make you catnip to someone who hunts for exactly that.

That’s where Cognitive Behavioral Therapy earns its keep. Survivors carry a loop of brutal thoughts. I’m an idiot. I should have known. I can never trust myself again. CBT catches each one and asks for the evidence. You weren’t stupid, a professional targeted you. And thanks to neuroplasticity, every time you swap the old thought for the true one, your brain lays down a new pathway and the old groove gets a little shallower.

How Past-Life Regression Changes the Picture

Here’s the part talk therapy can’t reach. When you revisit a painful memory in a calm, emotionally safe state, the brain can update how it stores that memory. Neuroscientists call this memory reconsolidation. Hypnotherapy gives you a gentle, focused way into exactly that kind of revisiting.

Past-life regression takes it further. You stop being only the victim of this story. You see the whole cast, lifetime after lifetime, trading roles. The con man becomes the conned. The ruined lord becomes the charming betrayer. Nobody stays the villain forever. Not you. Not him.

That shift in perspective does something willpower never can. It lets you set the bitterness down. Peter learned that lesson too late. Nicole learned it in time.

The Healer Underneath

Before we left the In Between, I asked Nicole to turn around and find her soul. Remember, you aren’t a Nicole who has a soul. You’re a soul who has a Nicole.

“Blue,” she said. “Deep sea blue.”

That’s the healer’s vibration. Most healers I’ve worked with carry that same deep blue. In later sessions, Nicole found other lives where her soul did exactly that work, including one as a revered shaman in South America who died loved by everyone and proud of her life.

That’s her goal this time around. Use every gift. Be loved. Be proud. Peter squandered his talent. Nicole is becoming a doctor.

Ready to See the Whole Story?

If you’re trying to make sense of a relationship with a narcissist, sociopath, or psychopath, and you keep asking how you let it happen, I’d love to help you find out. Through Hypnotherapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, and Past-Life Regression, we work together to understand the pattern, release the shame, and bring you back to your own authentic self.

Please give me a call at (323) 933-4377 to schedule a FREE CONSULTATION.

Sending you all hope and love,

Stephanie